“You are not behind, you are ahead of schedule!”
I was recently listening to one of my favorite podcasts, We Can Do Hard Things. In it, one of the hosts, Abby Wambach was re-telling her New York City Marathon experience. She talked about how in the final few miles she decided to FaceTime her running coach in Florida to share the experience with her.
The first thing Coach Loux said was “you’re ahead of schedule. You are ahead of your goal pace.” Meanwhile, Abby had been feeling bad and not good enough for the last two miles because her running partner and friend had gone ahead of her. Abby was feeling like she wasn’t fast or doing well in the race.
Then, the other host, Glennon Doyle jumped in and said, “Isn’t this a beautiful metaphor. Whenever we compare ourselves to other people, we think we’re behind. And we need somebody to remind us, ‘listen, you are ahead of schedule.’” Abby didn’t even realize she was ahead of her goal pace because she was comparing herself to her friend who had ran ahead a few miles back.
I share this because over the last eleven years of raising kids, I always felt like I was behind on all I could be doing with work. I knew I could do more, but felt behind. This kept me from even getting off the starting line and putting anything out there.
In my mind, I saw how others had been able to successfully run their businesses, raise their kids and still walk out of their houses with a smile on their face. Why couldn’t I do it all? I must be behind or not good enough.
So, this first blog post is a reminder to all of us that whenever we compare ourselves to others or what we should do, we feel behind and not good enough. Whatever you are feeling bad about right now, just think, “I’m ahead of schedule.”
The other thing that motivated me to finally get back out into the “world” through my blog and my work was a quote I read from Dave Ramsey, "We can't quit. There is someone out there that needs our help."
To Dave, Abby and all of my mentors out there, especially the beloved Glennon Doyle, I can do hard things including launching my blog, learning and sharing The Emotion Code, working in a new office and everything else I’m inspired to do as I take this first step.
And as you venture through the holidays and start planning for 2022 (or not), remember, “You are not behind, you are ahead of schedule!”